502. The 3 Main Life Buckets You Should Be Focusing On

On this episode, Nellie shares her extensive experience in coaching women, emphasizing the importance of addressing common feelings of insecurity and loneliness. She positions herself as a "heart surgeon" for women's energy, capable of quickly identifying and resolving issues. Nellie discusses the three main life buckets: health, wealth, and relationships, advocating for focusing on one at a time. She highlights practical solutions like using TaskRabbit for household tasks, automating savings, and leveraging digital assets for income. Nellie stresses the importance of a positive money mindset, giving, and taking aligned actions to achieve financial success.

We will touch on:

• Nellie's Car Chat Introduction and Personal Background
• Nellie's Approach to Helping Women
• Addressing Common Challenges and Solutions
• The Three Big Buckets of Life: Health, Wealth, and Relationships
• Health and Fitness Solutions
• Wealth and Money Mindset
• Strategies for Improving Financial Health
• The Power of Giving and Receiving
• Overcoming Overwhelm and Taking Action
• Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Let's Take Some Action:

• Analyze your relationship with money - thoughts, words, and actions.
• Examine your spending habits by reviewing the last year's worth of transactions.
• Implement an automated budgeting system to make managing finances easier.
• Incorporate more giving and receiving into your financial habits.
• Explore digital assets, online income streams, and accountability partners to grow your wealth.

Transcript

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Welcome to my car. I don't have my you can kind of see the other side. I'm at a car rental because my car is getting replaced, and I'm on a road coming home from the concert for like, the next hour. So I have so much I want to talk about. I feel like this is going to be like nelly's greatest hits. So give me hashtag live, hashtag replay, because my energy is overflowing and I want to do this. This feels really fun. Um, this episode is like nelly's greatest hits. I'm just going to like tell you my best advice, the, you know, talking to women for over, oh my gosh, honestly, over 10,000 hours, like in the last the last seven, eight years, I have spent so much time with women, both on the phone, on Zoom, in, person, one on one group, conferences, like it's been so much in that time frame. And so I feel like I have such a good pool of data, and the first thing I want to say is we are more like than we are different. Like, if you were to hear some of the things that women have told me, it would hurt your heart, like so many women feel very insecure, they feel very lonely, they feel very frustrated, and it's very different than what is being curated on your social media feed, which can be the biggest mind, because you're like, am I the only one feeling like I'm doubting myself, that, you know, things feel hard or heavy or confusing, and So I just want to, like, normalize that, like so many people feel exactly what you're feeling. They just aren't vocalizing it right, publicly, at least. And so women come to me, and they just crack their heart wide open, and then we work on, you know, putting all the puzzle pieces together to have that heart be so well taken care of. And if you were to think about a heart surgeon, right, if you needed a heart surgery, you would want to go to the best of the best. And I am the best of the best, and I've been really practicing owning that, because if you needed a heart surgery, you would want your doctor to be very confident in what they do. You would want them to have experience. You would want them to have results of other heart heart patients, right? And I am so good at what I do, so good at what I do, like I can spend 10 minutes with you on the phone in a heart surgery, and we can get to the root of what is going on. It is. It blows me away every single time. Like I am so good at what I do, both one on one in group video, like you don't have to be, you know, talking to me to benefit from my expertise. Like, the beautiful part about us having a conversation means I can customize, you know, more of it for you, but I am. I'm one of the best heart surgeons out there when it comes to your energy heart and really helping you navigate the direction that you want to go, and then also helping you, like, enjoy the process. And I don't just talk the talk, like I walk the walk. Literally, I get messages daily of like, oh my gosh, wealthy month literally changed my life. And, you know, this video changed my life. This is exactly what I needed. And so I am owning more of how good I am at what I do, and I want you to do the same, because it's a vibe. And you get to stand in that energy and to stand in that power and own that you're really good at what you do, and equally, I'm always wanting to get better, and I think that that makes an amazing leader. You know, when someone's really good at what they do, and you know that they're only like getting better, that's like the best. It's so good. So with that being said, I'm giving you my best, and since I've spent so much time privately with women, I've heard it all, and I really want this episode to be all about solutions for maybe challenges. Or obstacles that you're currently facing, because we are so much more alike than we are different. So I just want this to be like rapid fire. So first and foremost, this is going to be unhinged Nelly coming out. So she gets, she gets a little spicy and sassy at times, but it's all with love, because I just, I know, I know what you're capable of, and I want you to reach that. And sometimes we need to, like, shake up the energy to help you just be like, just to help remind you Who the f you are, and you can even move forward and be like, yeah, she's right. Okay, so if you ever feel like I'm shaking up the energy and getting spicy, unhinged, sassy, whatever you want to call it the it's always intentional, and it's I get very passionate because I want to see more women win. And if we're on the sidelines, we we can't win like you gotta be in the game to win. So the coolest part about this personal growth journey for you is your perspective, when you are blaming your bank account, blaming the lack of time that you have, blaming the the drained energy, right? Like, if you're tired or exhausted, like, I always say, everything that you're sharing always has validity to it, right? It's so valid. Like, sure you may not love what's in your bank account, okay, um, maybe you don't have the time that you want, right? Like, who do? Who does? Right? Like, everyone wants more time. You know, maybe you have a kiddo that isn't getting a lot of sleep, and it's really, really frustrating. I get it, so I don't want to make you wrong for anything that you're feeling, because that isn't emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is really feeling the feelings, and then working through the feelings and the emotions to get to an energy, get to an emotion that better serves you, to help you get to not only where you want to go, but just feeling better, right? Like who wants to be in pain for the rest of their life? Right? Like that, no one is meant to be in constant pain, and so it's so cool as an adult, because so much of our problems and our challenges are not problems. You don't have problems or challenges when there's a solution, I'm going to say that again, unheard Nelly is already coming out to play. You actually don't have a problem or a challenge. If there is a solution, if there's multiple solutions, you don't have a problem. You have a lack of effort. I love you, but you have a lack of effort. If you are tired and you know that there's solutions, we're not making it a big enough effort to to cure the problem. So you actually don't have a problem. You You have lack of effort. So technically, the the problem is the lack of effort, not the actual problem. But most adults, it's so much easier to make the problem the villain. Oh, I hate my bank account. I live paycheck to paycheck. I never have enough time. My boss is so needy. I don't love how I look in the mirror, uh, none of my clothes fit right. Like, blah, blah, blah, blah. But when we're in blah energy, we're going to get blah results. When you're in wealthy energy, and you take wealthy action, you're going to get wealthy results. And I know that sounds so basic, but it's so true. It's so true. With the proper energy and effort, you can solve any problem. Say it with me. With the proper energy and effort, I can solve any problem so you you never have problems. So I'll share one with you right now. So we just went to the concert, and I had the two tickets in my apple wallet for the challenge winners, which made me feel really good. You just never know. Like, I bought them on a trusted site stuff hub, but like, I was telling them last night, as soon as they, like, got into the arena, I was like, I have fulfilled my contractual obligations. I love you. Have the best time, right? Like, I just, I felt like I could breathe just a little bit more. You just, you just never know. And I would, I had like, I had plan, A, B, C, D, again, solution. I am the queen of solutions, and therefore I will always be successful, because I'm always in solutions mode. So I had their. Gets in my apple wallet for, like, the last few days, but Sarah and I's tickets were still not they still weren't allowing me to transfer them outside of StubHub. They because StubHub is like a reseller, and so they they were showing that they were still not available for transfer, and it was just making me uncomfortable. And so I woke up Friday morning and I was like, This is making me uncomfortable. What can I do about it? Right? Solutions. I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna have StubHub being the villain, because I want to be at that concert. So be, you know, just pointing the finger and having a villain gives away all of my power. So I contact StubHub, and they say, you know, there's nothing we can do. It's in our policy, which I understand. It is in their policy. And they're like, don't worry, we have our 100% guarantee if you can't get the tickets transferred the you know, don't worry, we'll refund you. To myself, I'm like, I don't want to refund. I don't want my money back. I want to go to the the concert. So I was like, okay, Nelly, what would what would you do? What would wealthy Nelly do? Wealthy Nelly would just go ahead and upgrade the tickets to floor tickets, because that originally that's what I wanted. Anyways, they were literally a fraction of they what they were even a few days ago, because everyone was trying to sell their tickets. So I got cheaper tickets closer to the stage, and got to surprise Sarah, which felt so incredible. I then re listed the other tickets on StubHub, because then StubHub will transfer the tickets to the other person, because I never received them, and they sold within a minute on StubHub. So now StubHub is responsible for that whole situation, and I just was like, I hope and pray that StubHub gets them transferred to the other person, but I am not risking it for myself. And they sold within a minute. So I bought the other tickets first. I had no guarantee of getting them sold, but I was like, worst case scenario again. I'm always in solution mode. Worst case scenario. I have an extra two tickets, and I find a little girl, and I surprise her and her mom, like I was already prepared to, like, look for somebody to surprise and and, you know, gift them the tickets that would like and that, like, I love the giving energy. So that would have felt good. Like, that's, if that's worst case scenario, that ain't so bad. It's just money, right? Like, if you want to work through all of your money blocks, start and grow a business, you will, you will personally grow so much. Like, I did not realize how many money blocks I had until I was a business owner, because it there's nowhere to hide. Like it's easy to hide in a day job with money blocks, it's easy to hide and stay home with kids with money blocks like because it doesn't force you in certain ways. It doesn't force you to look at like the internal stuff. And so when you're a business owner, you got you got to register your business, you got to pay taxes, you got to pay yourself. You've got to make money in order to pay yourself. You've got to build products like it is actually one of the best ways to work through any and all money blocks, because the growth that that like that I had yesterday of just like, Yeah, I'm gonna go ahead and buy floor tickets. I there was no stress. There was no anxiety. It was just like, Yeah, I'm gonna do that, and then I'll, I'll figure out what I do with the next other tickets once I have the other ones. So anyways, the floor tickets immediately transferred in my account, I felt like I could breathe, which was worth the risk within itself, right? Like you gotta be a little bit of a risk taker to to make your goals and dreams happen, like they're going to require a courageous, determined, motivated action taker type of you like. And if you're willing to be that and grow into that, then you can, you can do anything. Okay, so when it comes to adults and all of their problems, most adult problems are figureoutable. There's three buckets of problem. That people are facing like, three big buckets that, like all sub, sub problems live in, okay, just the main three. So there's health, there's wealth and there's relationships, okay, health, wealth and relationships. So my first question to you is, which one do you think is your biggest bucket right now? Is it health? So that would be like, you don't love how you look in the mirror. You want more energy, and maybe you want to get stronger, maybe you want to lose weight, maybe you want to feel sexier. Health can also be like the internal stuff. So like healing trauma, you know, personal growth mindset, all of those things. So health is, health is really like you, okay, that's really to some of that category. It's like all of you inside and out. Okay. Second category is wealth. So that is your relationship with money, right? Like spending it, receiving it, investing it, giving it all of it, right? Typically, most people are really good at one or two of those, like, they're really good at giving, or they're really good at making it but then not managing it, or spending it but not making it type of thing. But again, all, most of adult problems are figureoutable. So amazing with whatever you're already good at. We can just build off of that, but we have to, we we get to get better at the things that are not don't come as easy to you. And like, the coolest thing that I like to remind myself of, I just thought about this. I hope you can hear me in this cup holder. You're in a cup holder right now. I'm gonna hope that I'm not just talking to myself like you can actually, like, hear my voice. That would be, that would be interesting. It's like the whole conversation no one can hear anyways. We're gonna hope that that's not happening, because I can't really look down. Ah, anyways. So the no, like, the thing that I love to remind myself of is no one comes out of the womb, right? Like when you're born, no one comes out. Like, I'm so good at managing money, I'm so good at making money, I'm it's so easy for me to stay healthy, right? Like all of adult challenges are figure out, able, fixable, and they require habits, right? Like health and wealth are hidden in your day to day habits, when you can get really, really good at the the day to day habits, you can change your whole life, and you can do it so freaking fast, and then the last category, which is relationship. So this would be your relationship. This could be really your relationship spiritually. This can be your relationship with your significant other, your kids, friends, co workers, boss, etc. So this like all of your relationships, because not one person can go through life without having some sort of relationship with someone else, right? Like, even if you're your own boss, like, you have to have a relationship with other people, even if you're not in, even if it's not close, everyone is connected in order to not only survive, but thrive. And like, then obviously, like the fulfillment piece, right? I see someone commented, I hope you can hear me. I don't want to look down for too long. Okay? Someone tried to tell me that you can hear me, so that way I don't waste your time. I don't want to be a distracted driver. I'm a really good driver, a very like grandma based driver, but I want to make sure you can hear me. So those are the three buckets. So my biggest part question in coaching you right now is, which bucket feels like it's the biggest, the heaviest, the one that is consuming you, that you're like, oh, like, if I could just, you know, Master my health and fitness and my wellness, I could do anything, right? Like, so you get to pick one of the three buckets in this, in this coaching session. Okay, so you might be like, well, it's all three now, like, we'll just pick the first one that you're like, once I master this one, then the other, you know, one or two would be so much easier. I believe, personally, they go in the order that I said, Okay. I. Once you master your health, internally and externally, okay, then we go on to wealth. Then we go on to relationships, like, your health is like the foundation to everything. And you like, there's a lot of chatter in the online space of you know, you don't have to be skinny to make six figures, like I've seen that post so many times, or some people disagree with saying that you get to become healthy to make a lot of money. However, I don't think it's being skinny. I don't think it's losing a certain amount of weight. It's just, honestly, for me, I think it's feeling good, having the energy so it it doesn't have to be this big transformation. You can be skinny and hate yourself, you can be happier and love yourself and vice versa, right? Like it's not about the number, it's more so about how you actually feel. Because when you can love yourself, then other people can more easily love you. If you don't love yourself, you will block blessings left and right, because you don't feel worthy of them, because you don't love yourself, right? Like, and I mean, like, fully, unconditionally, love yourself. I can see this pattern in my past, like, 1,000% where I didn't love myself. It didn't have a ton of energy in it. It did block me from a lot of blessings. And with that being said, you can still be successful and not have that strong foundation, but you're on a house of cards. Like, literally, I remember 10 plus years ago I was very, like, overweight, like 4040, pounds heavier than I am now, this was before kids. I had no concept of meal prepping or what to meal prep. I had no idea how much water to drink in a day. Some days, a lot of days, I didn't even get water in. And now I go to the gas station, I'm like water. I want this big thing of water. And so the the interesting part about all of this is I've had success without a strong foundation, but it's like a house of cards. It feels so wobbly, you question yourself left and right. You don't enjoy the journey, and therefore you stop and start. You self sabotage. You. It just feels awful. So you Yeah, you can totally have success and not love yourself, not be feeling healthy or having energy. But I've had it both ways, and it I will, I will never pick that one again. Like, I want to feel so good, and I do believe bigger goals and dreams require more energy. Like, of course, they do, right? Like, of course. Like, if you want to go travel the world, that's going to take more energy. And if you are struggling to get through your day to day, your your normal day to day, how are we going? How are we going to go travel the world, right? Like, and since your brain knows that it's going to self sabotage because it's like, girlfriend, you like, we like, I was going to say you, but it's like, it's your energy and you are we, like, we can't even get through the day to day. Like, why? Like, I know you want to go travel the world, but like, it ain't in the cards for us, at least at this moment, with how, how we're operating, right? So I do believe they go in the order that I shared, and you can do all three at the same time. But if, if one of the buckets, like, if your health bucket is so big and so heavy, I would recommend taking a little bit of time to just put focus on your health and fitness Right. Like, you can dabble in the other two, but like, majority of your time and energy goes into one, then get that feeling better, and then stack on top. Now we're working on our wealth bucket. Now we're working on our relationship bucket. And this is like, this is like the Holy Grail, like these three buckets, like, I just want you to imagine for a second, you feeling like all three categories are on fire in the best way possible, like you're crushing it with your health and fitness. You have more energy than you ever have. You could, like, run circles around people. You are excited to get out of bed, right? Like, you know how to meal prep you you. Work out regularly. Like you feel so good internally and externally. Love looking in the mirror. You love putting on your clothes. Right then we go to the wealth category, and you're like, oh my gosh, I am so good at investing money. I'm so good at giving it. I love spending it. I love I love making it. You're just like, this is, like, amazing, right? Like, amazing. And then we go to the relationships, and you're like, I have the best of friends, I have the best co workers, I have my husband and I have never been closer, right? My kids, we feel so connected. So I'm just like, painting a picture for you of what's possible versus where you're at right now. And here's the beautiful part, too. You might have blessings in all three buckets, like maybe your health and fitness is going well. Maybe you've made strides in your wealth bucket. Same thing with your relationships. So wherever you're at, just imagine it amplified times like a million and how amazing that would feel. So no matter where you're at on the on the the spectrum of those buckets, like, just imagine them getting better. Like, raise your hand if you like, you want them to be better. I do like, I want to keep getting closer with my husband. Like, we've never been closer, and I've known him like, pretty much half my life at this point, right? Like, but we've never been closer, and that that feels incredible, like I actually enjoy spending time with my kids, like it doesn't feel like a dread, it doesn't feel like a chore, like I'm heading home and I'm like, so giddy, like I'm not, like, I'm not sad, like, I had an amazing time. It was, you know, I'm not, I don't want to be sad. I want to be happy that it happened. And now I'm excited to go back to my family. So it's only good energy. I'm about to cross into Ohio. Oh, somebody in the chat I am so I just wanted to get better for you. That's like as your energy heart surgeon. I wanted to get better for you. I wanted to feel better. I want you to get faster results, right? I want it to be just better than you can even imagine in your mind right now. Like, our mind can only design what it knows, right? So, imagine it being even better than you can even design in your mind right now. Like, how cool will that be? Not, would it? Will it? And it's 1,000% possible. Watch out construction on road ahead with the proper energy and effort, like anything is possible. Okay, so what I want you to pay attention to is the thoughts that you have, the words that you have, and the actions that you have, okay? So this is, like, the day of three, okay? Because we have three buckets, and there's three ways I want you to, like, work on this, so your thoughts matter, your words matter, and your actions matter. And when we can have them all synced up and aligned, and we're focusing on one, one bucket at a time. This is where you you have no more problems. You have only solutions. When you think that you only have solutions, you say that you only have solutions, you talk and brainstorm about solutions, and then you take the actions. You don't have any problems. You have no problems. If you to write down every challenge that you have right now, every problem that you have right now and then, you thought differently, talked differently, and took different action, you don't have a problem. And even if it takes us a little bit of time to work on said problem, it's still not a problem because it's already in action of resolving the obstacle, which means it's already in solution mode, right? Like once it's already in solutions mode, it's not a problem, it's just we're now heading in the direction of, you know, course correcting. And if you can literally see in front of you that it's literally just a matter of time before it it's complete and and I do believe that then when you can be in that, in that part of the journey. This is when it goes so fast, because your brain loves evidence. So once we have you in solutions mode and you're actively taking action, and your brain starts to see and feel the results your brains like. We like this, let's keep doing this like Yes, please. More please. Let's go right, and it's just so much easier. I've been wait waking up earlier and earlier, which, because that's been one of my desires, but it hasn't felt easy again, because I have a toddler that his sleep is still all over the place, but I'm like, You know what? Let's do this imperfectly. It doesn't have to be every like if my desire is to wake up earlier, so I have more quiet time before the House wakes up. Let me just do it as much as I can. Right? I was really I was in the solutions mode of being perfect, which was stopping me from actually even doing it. It's been something that I've been really actively working on, because it's a trend that I can see if I can't do it perfectly and do it 100% 100% of the time, my old way of being would just be like, I'm out, like, if I if I know I can't do it every single day, then I don't want to set myself up for failure. But it's really not failure for making progress, right? But in a perfection energy, in a perfection mindset, it does feel that way, and so you get a different result. So I've been working on that because I'm like, okay, even if I woke up, like, here go to worst case scenario, right? Worst case scenario is even if I wake up at 5am which is my desired outcome, like 5am Monday through Friday. So that way, have two hours before the world needs me, right? Even if I do it one day a week, two days a week, three days a week, right? Isn't that better than zero? Isn't that a solution? Isn't that helping like get towards my overall desired result, right? Same thing with 10,000 steps, I get an average of 10,000 steps a day, but there are a few days here and there where it just didn't happen, and that's okay. I got more than I would if I didn't put in the energy and effort. And so I'm still winning, like, I'm still winning, and that's huge. That's that's the whole goal here, right? Like, are you going to be mad about making $1,000 cash day, and then the next day you have like, $100 cash day, and then you have like, another $500 cash day. Like, the The goal here is more reps, more reps, rather than zero reps, you can't get stronger in the gym if you don't pick up the weights. And if you pick up the weight and then you for one time and then you never pick it up again, you're still not going to get stronger. So like, the goal with getting literally physically stronger is more reps, more reps, which is short for repetition, right? You've got to do something long enough to see the results, and this is with talking to people and supporting them. You know, for eight years now, 1000s of hours on the phone the holding yourself through the middle. I call it the messy middle because it is messy and it is it can be very uncomfortable when you're in the messy middle. So it's like after you have started to be in solutions mode, but you're not at the desired result yet. So many people give up in the messy middle and take a sip of my coffee. So many people give up in the messy middle because they don't think it's happening, because they can't see the result, right? It's like the Seeing is believing. Well, you've got to believe, and then you'll see which I love the word believe, because it has be in it be so you've got to be the the energy of the goal, and you've got to do the things long enough to have the desired result. Okay, I'm hoping people can hear me. I see people commenting, so I'm gonna assume people can hear me. If not, I'm just giving the best advice to Taylor Swift, even though she does not need advice, but her and I will just, we're just having a girl chat here. So the cool part, when you shift to solutions mode, you find so many solutions, so many solutions. When I was I had a hunch, this was years ago, but when I had a hunch that I had 80. D again, I'm trained to go into solutions. I was like, You know what? I'm sick and tired of feeling blah about my brain. I feel like I'm different. I'm going to advocate for myself. I went and got tested. I then went and explored like a treatment plan. I learned more about ADHD. I feel like everything else is better because of that right that would go into the health category. I feel like I am a better business owner, a better human, a better mom, a better wife. I feel better because of going into solutions mode on that, I have talked to so many people, they're like, Yeah, I should probably get tested. You're in a problem. Then, like, probably means you're in a problem, right? Yeah, I should probably, you know, work on growing my business, okay, probably is not going to get us results. Should is not going to get us result results, right? Like, I should meal plan. I should do this. It's like, but what like? We've got to get in solutions mode. Being in solutions mode is such a habit for me, I don't even realize that I'm doing it like, it's that normal for me to be in solutions mode, to the point where sometimes I have to catch myself, because if I'm in like, wife mode, and my husband just wants to, like, vent right about something, and he's not looking for solutions, I have to. We've gotten to a part of our relationship degree is like, I just want to, like, vent that. That's what I need right now. I don't need you to be in solutions mode. I love you. I just, I need my wife. It's like, okay, okay, got it. Um, so that's how much it is a part of my identity, and has been for so long, which is why I get incredible results. Like, I don't have a handout. I don't have this secret thing that I'm not telling you, like, I do not gatekey, like, it's the proper energy and the proper effort. And I really think a lot of the world is convinced that there's something that you know someone's not telling them, which I can't speak for everyone else, but I'm just telling you, you'll be shocked with how much your life can change when you put in the proper energy and effort into those three buckets, right? Health, wealth, relationships, right? Your best relationships that, like, you cherish the most, it's because you putting time and money into them, right? Like, everything takes time and money, and you get to decide which one you have more of. Because if you have more time, let's use that as a resource more. If you have more money versus time, let's use that as your resource more, right? Like, let's leverage what you have. I think it requires both time and money, but meet yourself where you're at of like, what do you have available to you? And there's a lot of resources out there. Again, when you're in solutions mode, you would be shocked with the amount of solutions are that are out there waiting for you to find them, right? And there's this really cool thing called Google that you can find just about any anything, like my greens shot that I take every single day, that I love, which I get to take it when I get home I'm like, craving it. It'll be helpful to reset my body after all the dancing and singing and all the things, but I Googled most of the things that I need support with. I found TaskRabbit, which TaskRabbit will literally come to your house, to deep clean your house, to move furniture, to organize, to do any like personal tasks that you need. They all have reviews of like the people that are on there. You can just pay them one time. It's not like you have to commit forever. So that's how I found TaskRabbit. That's how I found my greens, the ADHD process that I went through, I I Googled it. This is I'm not gatekeeping here. I just I'm a Research queen. I go find solutions. I go ask people that I trust. I ask like, what? What do I need to be successful? And then it's up to me to, like, make it happen. I felt I found several meal prep companies through googling. One 800 got junk has come to my house a lot this year, and I found them on Google. Google's like my best friend. We are very close, and it's just amazing when you do a search at how much you can find, right? Like, it blew me away, the handful of people i. That were commenting on my Taylor Swift stuff, saying, like, must be nice. Yeah, it was nice. I worked. I put in the proper energy and effort to make this happen. This wasn't handed to me like I had to put in the energy and effort, and I got the result. This is why I know my process works, because I'm working it every single day, and doing it with ease, flow and fun, and doing it imperfectly, I might add, and so, you know. And one person said, Well, I went on StubHub because I told her to go on StubHub. And she goes, Well, the tickets are $3,000 I'm like, and like you said that you wanted to go. What are you doing, right? What are you doing to make it happen, right? There's so many ways to make money on the internet in 2024, 2025 2026, like, there is no reason that someone should be broke like, and it's not just making more money, it is, yes, also managing it, which I have so many tips for that. Oh my gosh. So let's just share, like on that note. Let's just go through nelly's favorite solutions on all of these categories. I've kind of already started, so we'll just, we'll do rapid fire here. What time is it? Okay? So let's go through the health category. So nelly's favorite solutions for the health category. I have this foam pillow that I'm obsessed with, and it's a neck pillow, so it like has a dip for your neck. I was just noticing with the sleep that I get, I was just my neck was always hurting, so I went on Amazon and typed in pillow for neck problems, and wouldn't you know it, I found one that had amazing reviews. So I have a really awesome memory foam neck pillow that I'm obsessed with. So I love that in our bedroom, I made it so cozy. We have this, like, cute little like night light that, like radiates like a pink, purple color. And it's from Scentsy, which I'm obsessed with. Scentsy, by the way, like obsessed, their scents obviously smell amazing. So it's a Scentsy night light that radiates like this pink, purple color throughout our bedroom, which just makes me so happy. And then the there's just, like, this beautiful scent that is on top of the night light. So it's like, functional and also cute. It's like it checks all the boxes. So our bedroom just feels cozy and amazing. So like with the the little bit of sleep that I can get most of the time, I want to make it count, right? I have been taking Epsom salt baths, not every single night. Again, I'm not like if I can't always do something every single day, but I've been taking Epsom salt baths, uh, more often than not, and it's just so nice. I don't bring my phone. I get in the bubble bath even, like, Emma has sat off to the side at times because she's still awake. She's like, can I just hang out with you? I'm like, Yeah, sure. We don't, like, she just wants to, like, body double. And she's like, I just want to be near you. And I'm like, that's fine. I just Mommy wants to, like, relax her body. Um, so I have really loved doing that. I have multiple walking pads at this point. I have a Apple Watch. So I strive, that's one of my favorite words. I strive to get 10,000 steps a day in some days are higher, some days are a little bit lower, but I am tracking it every single day. And so typically, what I do is, if it was just a really busy day or wonky day, or a lot of driving, like today, like I just do I I strive to do my best, so I'm always tracking. And if it's towards the end, the end of the day, and I'm like, okay, the whole goal of the 10,000 steps is not to exhaust myself, because that defeats the purpose of doing it, but the goal of doing all of these things is to do better, be better, and move towards what I desire with ease, flow and fun. So I have to really always make sure I'm coming from a place of, Yes, I'm coming from a place of ease, flow, fun versus push, push, push, hustle, hustle, hustle, grind, grind, grind, because then I immediately go back into that old identity that I don't want is not serving it. I don't want to be in it. It's not serving me. So I have to be very, very cautious and mindful of how I show up in certain ways. So that way I don't step back into that identity, because it was, it was my identity for a really long time. So of course, it's going to, like, try to sneak back in. So there are, you know, a handful of days where I'm I'm tracking, and I'm looking and I'm like. Okay, I'm at 7000 steps, let's say, and it's like towards the end of the night. So in order to get to 10,000 it's gonna be a lot, right? But what I've done recently that has really helped me is okay, even if you can't get to the 10,000 and do with ease, flow and fun today, make it a fun game. I'm at 7000 can I get to eight? Right? Can I get to 7500 right? That's better than just throwing in the white towel and giving up, because I don't want to be that identity either. So I've, I've really found, like this beautiful happy medium, and my my overall goal is to still strive to do it, to do the 10,000 steps more often than I'm not doing. But I don't want to be perfect. I don't want to be in that identity. And I also don't want to be in the well, I'm just going to give up now type of energy, because that doesn't know. Neither one of those serve me. So it's that beautiful in between that does serve me. Water has been amazing. I typically add to my water something called trim fit. It's purple tea. It helps with your energy, your focus, curb cravings, all of those things. So I love that in my water, I get so much water in every single day. Getting water in is so easy for me. I do my daily greens shot, and so that's like, more of the health stuff that I'm obsessed with. Obviously, I just did a marathon, so I was doing a lot of running, but I am now complete with that, and I'm moving on to, like, another big health goal that I'm excited about. So more like strength training, building muscle, lean, mean, fighting machine in the best way possible. So that's more like the health stuff, more of like the outside stuff. I love a cute outfit. And when I say cute, I'm like, talking leggings and a cute shirt. I love doing my hair. I love beanies, right? Like, I love just headbands, like, just really, not necessarily, being dressed to the nines. I've noticed that, like, wearing designer clothes actually doesn't really get me excited. Like, if I find something designer and I love it because I love it, not because it's designer, then that's different. Like, these were the glasses at like, these glasses I've had for over a year, and these are Gucci. They were, like, $500 and I'm obsessed with them. I did not buy them because they were Gucci. I do love them and they're bougie, but I love them because they're, like, they have all of these stars all over them, like, I get so many compliments on them. So that's like, a big thing for me. Like, I'll buy something because it's high quality and or I really, really love it, not just buying it because of the designer. It's like, it's because, like, not buying it just because it's designer. I just as much love going thrifting and buying clothes from our Batik and Amazon and all those things. So like, cute and comfy clothes are the season that I am normally in right now, besides like dressing up for a special occasion, so I love doing my makeup. I don't do it every single day, but I do love doing my makeup. I love journaling, I love quiet time. I've been tapping more into my faith recently and praying and just leaning into more of a spiritual practice, a spiritual journey, and that has felt really good. There's a lot there, so I've just been slowly expanding my comfort zone around that. And it's not really, really good, and it hasn't felt forced, which is also good. And my whole goal, with everything that I'm doing for food. We typically do like a meal prep company for most of our meals, and then we do eat out, and I've just found that to be a really good blend. I used to feel bad about eating out, but we're such foodies, and we really do like family like dinner time. Family Time is my favorite time. And so if we can eat out a couple days a week, and it's less dishes, I feel I know there's somebody out there that relates to this, like, I feel like I actually enjoy dinner time more, because I'm not like, Oh, what am I going to make? I make it, then we eat it, and then I like, someone's gotta clean up the mess, right? So I've just found that, like the time that I cherish the most is with my family, and I don't want to be internally stressed. So that's been huge. I mentioned Task Rabbit earlier. I was even on. The phone with my husband. I was like, I really want them to come so that way I can just do this, like, big tape clean on our house. I love to clean, but I don't always have the time again, problem, solution. So I'm like, Alright, task, grabbing Pop. Pop over to my house, and it's so affordable. Um, I'm also testing a laundry service, where they will pick up your laundry, wash it, fold it, and bring it back to you. And it's so affordable. Again, I'm like, This is so worth it. Like, the amount of hours that I invest in laundry, and I don't love it like, laundry is probably the biggest chore that I do not love. I love to vacuum, I love to wipe down surfaces. I love to organize. I love to decorate. Like there's a lot of the household tasks that I do love, actually, dishes, I don't really mind. They're easy, they're really mindless. I typically just talk to my husband or somebody else when I'm doing it, but the laundry is like, the biggest, heaviest one, so it's worth the money to delegate that, especially when I think about how many hours per week, and then add that up for a whole year, and I'm like, that's over, like, it's easily over 100 hours for the year, if not more. What could I do with 100 hours? Like, imagine investing that in my health and fitness, or, you know, my business, or whatever it may be. So that's like, huge, and there's only so many hours that we have available, so buying back our time can be can be huge. So I mentioned one 800 got junk. I love that. Let's go to the middle category, because that's really where I want to spend the most time. So there's a lot here. Where should we start? Well, let's start with money that you already have. Because when we can have a better relationship with money that you already have, then when you make more, it will feel so good because you already again, like money is also its own, like getting that strong foundation within the money bucket, and then we add to it, and that's like, it feels really, really good. So before we even, like, go into your bank account, it's checking in on the energy of money. Like, when I say the word money, do you cringe? Do you sweat? Do you tense up, right? Like the the energy around money before we even talk about specific numbers has gotta be better. Um, yay. It says Columbus, I'm getting close there. Um, so the energy of money has got to be better for you to not only maintain the money that you have right now, but to grow the money that you have. Like, I don't want anyone to feel scarce around money. Like I like, I don't want you to be exhausted or stressed or frustrated with money, like money should be this beautiful relationship in your life that just gets better and better and better, and if nothing changes, nothing will change. And it's so important for us to figure out a plan so that way you can go in the direction that you're wanting and it can just get better and better and better. So we get to look at the energy of money first. So this is, this is where we would talk about money, money mindset. We would talk about money blocks. We would talk about what you say about money, right? Like, if you keep saying that you're broke, we've gotta change your words, right? So your energy with money is your thoughts, your words and then your actions, right? Like, in that order, thoughts about money, how you speak about money, as if it's actual, like an actual person. There was a situation that happened this past week where I was not in the room on something, and I had multiple people stand up for me when I wasn't in the room. And I was like, Wow, that's amazing. Like, those are, those are, those are the type of humans that I want to surround myself with, not gossip energy, right, or anything around that type of energy. Well, that's how we get to feel about money. So even when money's not in the room, meaning like you're not going into your bank account or opening up your wallet, you're thinking good thoughts about money, as if it's a person, you're saying good things about money. Money as if it's a person, and then when you actually spend time with your money, it's it all syncs up. It's all connected, and it's all aligned, versus like, does anyone want a relationship with somebody that talks behind their back like nasty stuff that when they're with them is just like treating them like crap and being mean and passive aggressive. And like, who wants that type of relationship? But yet, a lot of people have that type of relationship with money, and it's like, if that were an actual person, you would not want that relationship. And so we also get to make sure this is kind of connecting the the buckets together. But if that's our relationship with money, how else is that showing up in our life? Right? Like, do you have that type of relationship with people, with yourself? Because if it's showing up in the money, it's probably showing up somewhere else, because we're creatures of habit, and how we do most things is how we do most things. And so it could be, it could be showing up in multiple ways. So anyways, so we want to talk about those types of things. Get the relationship feeling better before we talk budget, before we talk strategies, right before we go make more money, people are skipping over that type of stuff so much, and then they're so frustrated, and they're thinking they'll get to the goal faster if they just go ahead and skip over. They're like, I don't need that money mindset stuff. I don't money blocks. No, I don't have any of those. Like, literally, people have said these things to me, and I'm like, typically, the ones that say they don't need money mindset, they don't need to work on their money blocks. Or the ones that have the most work like room to grow. They have the most money blocks. They have the worst relationship with money, but they're so in their ego that they're not willing to admit it to even themselves. Like you don't have to go on social media and make like a social media post about any of this stuff, like you don't have to do that, but you you've gotta be honest with yourself. If you're not honest with yourself and you're not honest with your money, how are you gonna have an honest relationship with anyone right, like it's gotta be it's gotta be better to get better, and you've gotta choose that you want it to be better and take those actions for it to even have a shot at being better. I even had this thought this morning where I was like, we're going for impacting and reaching over 1 million moms. I just I want more ordinary, everyday moms to feel like they have a community that they fit in. And they're like, Wow, I can do extraordinary things, even being the way that I am, right, whether that be ADHD, or you're a stay at home mom or you you know you've had hurdles that you've had to jump through. Whatever it be, whatever it may be I want. My goal with wealthy mama movement is it's for like the everyday woman, and she gets to win like she gets to win and thrive and feel just so good, so So on top of the world. So when it comes to this category, once we work through all of those, once we work through more of the energy and the the relationship with money, then we start to talk like so much more about it, so we look at what you're currently spending. I like to go with spending first, because there's some really quick wins to bring things up. It's not easy for most people to save money. Most people get really intimidated about investing money and also making more money. So we're gonna go with the path of least resistance and work on the easier stuff first. So hands down, opening up your bank account and going through the last month, three months, six months, honestly, even a whole calendar a year of your spending, because then you would get a really good snapshot at birthdays, holidays, vacation, when you're sick, when you know the weather is not great, like you can really tell a lot about your relationship with money. If you go that like that, if you zoom out that much, which is really cool. I've done this many times, and I learned so much more about myself every single time. It's interesting. But you know, numbers tell a story, and numbers, you. Cool thing about numbers is they can change when you play with them, right, like when you when you shift them, like it's like a math problem, two plus two will always equal four. But if you do a different math problem, it will equal a different amount. My phone is getting low, so I might have to wrap up this marathon that we're doing. Um, I'm surprised my phone actually haven't gotten overheated yet. That's nice. Um, so I love that little beep that this car, this car rental, does. It's like, beep, beep. It's like, so cute. Um, it's the little things in life. So we, let's go through the last at least week, then month like get work yourself up to the last year. Go through every credit card, if you have credit cards, every wherever you have swiped your card, right? We can really see a lot, okay, the biggest money, money monsters, but I don't mean that in a bad way, but like the the things that are going to consume the most amount of your money are housing, transportation and food. All three categories are needed, right? You need a roof over your head. You need a vehicle, typically, to go to and from places and you need food, but a lot of people have a mortgage or rent that is very high. They have a car payment, whether it's a lease or like a car loan, that is very high, and in their groceries alone are very high, and then eating out adds up really, really fast. So when we it's it's three again, you guys, I'm not that was not planned. The the threes are coming out to play today. I love it. There someone go play the lottery and put a bunch of threes in your your winning numbers. Because, man, oh, man, this was not planned at all. I have no notes this. This is how I'm I'm so good at what I do like I don't need preparation. I just will talk and talk and talk and talk and talk until my phone shuts off or somebody kicks me off. So the threes, so housing, transportation and food. So we can really see so much shifts when we get creative with those three buckets, right? So, for example, if your rent or mortgage was really high. Okay, can we refinance the mortgage? Can we move and downsize if you're in an apartment and your apartment feels so high, can we get a roommate? Can we shop around at other apartments? And then obviously you would have to see like, when your lease is up, but we can at least shop around if you can find a really nice apartment that is $500 cheaper a month. That adds up, right? Like, it's a lease worth considering that's like, one of my favorite mindset hacks of like, I don't have to say yes, but I do want to entertain the idea of something if it relates to where I'm wanting to go, right? Like I'm always down to entertain ideas if they align with wealthy me. Like I owe it to my wealthiest self to do that. But it's not always going going to be a yes or immediately. So when I did this, I found over$100,000 that I shifted so fast, so fast, it was mind blowing to me, because it just gets easy to be in spending mode, and then you're like, I know I should budget. I know I should look at that. I know I should, I should, I should. I should. Oh, there's a car next to me. Um, but we, we're living such a fast paced life that there's already so much going on in your day to day. To add another task like budgeting, which most people don't love to do it's going to keep, keep being put off, because it does take brain power. It does take focus, right? Like you can't really have a kid screaming and sit down and crunch numbers. It's not that easy, right? It's not that simple, but so important, right? And so the coolest hack outside of the three categories, and like shifting things within those three categories, is playing with a like percentages. So if you have heard the 5030, 20 year rule. People. It really helps. So that way 50% is going to your needs, then 30% is going to your wants, and then you're saving 20% which is huge, because the average billionaire says to save 15% so you're even, like, saving a little bit more than that, which is great. So I love a percentage based plan, because it gets you in the habit of things, and you can set it up a lot of banks. I'm actually switching my business bank account after eight years, because I found a bank account that will literally, every time I deposit money in, it, will automatically move it, percentage wise, to the account that I want it to on its own. That is worth me moving everything to a new bank account, because that's not a convenient thing. But like, the fact that this bank will do that is worth it so much to me, because I am busy, I don't want to have like, the biggest challenge I see with people wanting to budget is if budgeting doesn't come naturally to you, if you don't normally do spreadsheets, or love spreadsheets, or you don't feel like numbers are your thing, then telling yourself that you're going to always sit down and check in on your budget and update your budget is a big fat lie to yourself, because it's not something that You naturally already do. And so there's just so much, like resistance there that is not your fault, but then you feel so blah when you're not consistently doing it. And so automating this, like, I call this the automated budget, like, when you can have an automatic transfer going into your savings or going into, like, a debt repayment bucket, right? Like, and it's a lease sorting it into digital envelopes for you now you don't have to work so hard again. Ease flow fund. I have multiple savings transfers that happen without me doing a thing, and some savings transfers are for fun money, right? I'm saving for fun money that I won't spend today, but it's like a short term savings goal, right? I have long term savings goals and transfers, and same thing with short term. And they're both important, and they both have helped me so much. I love my savings trackers that I have. I love my savings binder. Like, just making all of this more automated and more fun has forever changed my life, like to the point where I truly want to do more financial literacy, not only for adults, but also like kids and teens, and making it like fun, because I don't see enough of that in the world, and I feel like this is a big pain point for so many people, and they're really struggling with it, and it's really holding them back. And I'm like, Oh my gosh, come to come to the dark side of where it's so fun to save money, it's so fun to make money, it's so fun to spend it and give it like it feels so fun. It feels so easy. It feels so simple. With every aspect of money, it like it's so good. Dare I say, even paying off debt can be cut. And debt is not bad. You're just it's just like that can be a strategy like, that's a whole nother marathon of a video within itself, because debt can be so helpful. So that way you you finance things, right? Like, most people wouldn't be able to live in their home without their mortgage, that's debt, right? Like, but you're leveraging someone else's money to be able to have a roof over your head. Or, if you've gotten a business loan, did that business loan help you move forward in your business, which is an asset, right? Like, that's huge. Or the car that you drive, does that car keep you safe, your kids safe, right? Like, give you a reliable way to get to and from places like when we can shift the energy around debt and actually make even that relationship feel so healthy and so good, even before it's paid off. So many people tell me they're like, I'll feel so much better about money once I have all my debt gone well, you're if that. That's, that's a toxic relationship, because it's, it's telling yourself that you're not worth that now, until you've done you've gotten like the result, and that's not true. You can feel better now about your debt no matter what. So let's talk about, talk about saving and spending giving so many people feel like they can't give until they make more. And that's also not true. It's only true if you tell it, tell yourself that it's true. You can give time and and energy and $10 right? $20 like there's so much that you can give right now that you're holding yourself back from that will actually catapult you into a whole new wealth paradigm. When you give first, when you give first, without the expectation of receiving, and you keep giving, and you keep feeling so good about it, you will receive so much, and it's not always immediate, and it's not always directly tied to that person, but you will, you absolutely will. It's, it's the ultimate trust. Trust fall right like it's trusting that when you're giving all of that will come back to 10 fold, because it always does and people delay giving, but it's the very thing that will change everything for you, like everything for you, and we get to tap into fun and creative ways to give, but like, giving is always in style, Giving, you know, giving in ways that feel good to you is the most important way to give, no matter how much money you have on your bank account. How long have we been talking for? I'm pretty sure we've been talking at least for like an hour. Look at us. Look at us. Go. I could keep going, dude to check my phone. So let's see here. You're like a healthy distraction, because this road, it's very it's just a straight shot home. And so it's just kind of like, do to do to do. You can only listen to so much music before you, like, Ah, I need somebody to talk to. So we're gonna give before we receive, and we're gonna keep giving and keep giving and keep giving. Now, in order to receive, you do need to ask you? Do give? To ask like you, we don't like wealthy women, don't wait. So it's not like, okay, Nelly told me to give and give and give, and then I would eventually receive, and you're like, you're kind of like waiting around. Well, we don't wait around in order to receive. The world needs to know that you're open to receiving. So how we do that is so many different ways. We launch the business, we grow the business. We invite people to work with us, right? Like we follow up with them. We market on social media, right? Like people need to know that you're open for business, right? Go and ask for the raise or sell things in your home, right? Like you have to do your part. You get to do your part for this all to work. So we, we never wait around. It's never twiddling your thumbs and waiting around. It's taking the aligned, inspired action that is so, so important. So the giving is huge, the spending is huge too, because that's also a part of the trust factor. So many people are so tense with their money and they're so worried not more going not more money is going to come in, so therefore they're hoarding it. Now, there's a difference between intentionally saving your money versus hoarding it right, having scarce energy around it. So like every single dollar coming in and out gets to have the best energy. It does not surprise me when I relisted the tickets that they immediately sold within one minute they were I priced it very similar to other people's tickets, but last night, even, like minutes before the concert started, there was still a lot of tickets for sale. Now you could argue that it's just, you know, a coincidence, but the fact that mine sold so fast, I'm gonna, I'm gonna say that it's not an accident. I was detached from them selling. I did my due diligence to look at other people's ticket prices, so that way I could put an informed price a listing I was strategic and made it $50 lower than someone next to me, because sales psychology plays a big part in things. And I pressed list and they sold. Old. I think it was even under a minute I was I checked my email because I thought it was a glitch, because it was like, your your tickets are now listed, and then, literally, I get another email, your tickets have sold. And I'm like, wait, what this is the power of giving and receiving, giving and receiving, giving and receiving, I say it in that order, giving and receiving. And it's this beautiful cycle, like it never ends. It's not like we give and give and give and give, it give and we're not receiving. It's giving and receiving, giving and receiving, giving and receiving. The the mini launch method that I teach on is built on this energy of giving and receiving. We many launch on giving, and we many launch on receiving, and we go back and forth, back and forth, back and forth, right? And it's this beautiful dance, and it feels incredible. And also it works so well when you work it, if you want to make more money and it to feel good, you've got to have a plan. You've got to have a strategy. You've got to have offers that light you up, programs that light you up, products that light you up. When you can have so much more passion around what you're promoting, it will equal so much more profit for you, so much more passion around what you're promoting equals profit. And continuing to take aligned action and giving it a long enough a long enough time to work is key right now, there's an infinite amount of ways to do this. People are super successful on Tiktok, and I'm barely on Tiktok. There's people that are super successful on Facebook and and get great results. There's people that are super successful with running ads versus just organic marketing or both, right? Like, there's an infinite amount of ways to make this all happen, which I find is where people get overwhelmed, but that is a choice. Like, I have stopped myself because I just I can't stay in the overwhelm. I have to go take action. I can't just keep being in that energy. So anytime I get overwhelmed, it just means it's a sign that I get to take action. When you're overwhelmed, it's because you've been sitting for so long and you're like your brain is an overload of information, and that makes sense. It's perfect, like it makes perfect sense of why, why we get overwhelmed, it's because we're not in motion, and our body is meant to be in motion, and so that's why we get to go and take more action. Okay, so I have lots of tips and tricks around this category. The biggest outside of the Passion tip is accountability. You like, it's not that you need a mentor or anything like that, but find people in categories that you struggle with. So if you struggle with strategy, then find somebody to help you with strategy. If you struggle with like, the admin task, find somebody to help you with that. If you struggle with offer creation, find somebody to help you with that right, like, wherever your weak spots are, find people to help you right, online co working like it's essentially like, body doubling has been a game changer for me. I have done so much body doubling, like virtual co working in these last few months, and it is like it has been a game changer, like Game Changer to the point where that's why we built it into your wealthy year, like you get so much CO working built in. And we do, like, 15 minute time sprints. Every one of those calls get so much done, and it doesn't surprise me, because they work so well, because you're collectively feeling the energy of everyone around you. I love digital assets. I love anything that you can do that. Can you can do easily from anywhere? I think is huge. So if that's digital assets, if that's one on one, or programs or courses, affiliate marketing events like virtual events are great, like drop, shipping, print on demand, like all of these things where they can it's very low cost to get up and running and maintain, but has very high profits. And there are so many people on the internet. Wanting that type of information, wanting that type of support and experience. And when you can get that stuff dialed in and start marketing it like you can make a really good amount of money, and for the normal everyday person, even$1,000 extra a month, which is very doable in online space, can be life changing for most families like want you to imagine having an extra $1,000 a month on top of all of the like the automated like budgets that we've been talking about, that type of stuff. I and then imagine $2,000 extra a month that you don't currently have. 3000 4000 5000 all of these numbers are possible. They're happening for so many people. Why not you? Right? Like, why not you? Why not right? Now, right? You're stopping yourself and again, like, we just get to take ownership of ourselves and stop pointing the finger and blaming, you know, other things and other people. And like, if you want more money, let's go figure it out, right? Like it is the most emotion. It's the biggest emotional turn on for me when someone's like, yeah, I don't love where I'm at right now, and I want to do something about it, and I am doing something about it. And can you help me, right? Like, oh my gosh. I live for those type of people, and also the people that are like, Okay, I'm getting great results. Can you help me get even better results, even faster results? I'm like, oh yes, let's go. Let's go. Let's go. Like, I it drains my energy when people are just talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, they just go in circles, go in circles and go in circles and go in circles and like, there's no breaking through to them because they're so stuck in their story. They're so stuck on their blah ladder, like, and I can't get I can't beg them like, you can be the most successful coach or mentor, and if someone is not willing to do the work, it does not matter. Like it has to be an internal like, Heck yes, I'm willing to do the work. I want to do the work. I'm excited to do the work. I'm going to make it happen, right? Like it's not just having a great coach or mentor, it's being an energetic match for that coach or mentor. I've never said it that way, but that makes perfect sense. Like, Huh, interesting. I'm going to have to process that one so emotionally turn on yourself by shifting right the thoughts, the words, the actions, the thoughts, the words, the actions, keep moving forward. You can make huge strides in a day, in a week and four weeks and six weeks and eight weeks, like it can happen so fast. And I think that that's what, like, yes, it does take time, but you can start to see the growth, right? And that is exhilarating. It is motivating. It is so good, like, so freaking good. Okay, so I'm gonna go ahead and pause there, because my my brain needs a little bit of a break. But I hope you enjoyed this car sesh with me, and I'm happy to do more on different topics or go deeper on anything. So just let me know. I have been craving to do like a giant, like actual Q and A, but I just knew it wasn't going to be able to do that, obviously, safely while driving, but that is something that I do desire to do, because I love answering questions as much as I can. So I love you. And the best thing that I would recommend doing after this car session is double down on the bucket that you know is holding you back the most. And we go there and we work on things within that bucket. So if you work with me privately, or if you're in your wealthy year, we can obviously work on this stuff too. But regardless, I want to see you win. I want to see you thrive. You deserve to thrive. You deserve to win. And you're so so capable of making it happen. Okay, so I'm gonna awkwardly sign off here and do it safely, but just know that I love you. Okay, goodbye.