471. Are You Afraid Of Your Happiest, Healthiest and Wealthiest Self? Part 1

On this episode, Nellie explores the fear of becoming one's happiest, healthiest, and wealthiest self. She discusses how fear can manifest in various degrees, from minimal to significant, and how it impacts personal and professional life. She emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and acknowledging self-sabotage tendencies. Nellie shares a personal journey of overcoming fear, moving from 60% fear to 10% by redefining their vision of wealth and health. She highlights the need for authenticity and practicality in goals, advocating for a balanced lifestyle that aligns with personal values and realities. The conversation aims to inspire listeners to embrace their unique path to success.

We will touch on:

• Are You Afraid of Your Wealthiest Self? Introduction and Context
• Sponsorship and Importance of Health
• Personal Reflection and Self-Sabotage
• Defining the Wealthiest Self
• Practical Steps and Daily Actions
• Embracing Imperfection and Doing It for Yourself
• Final Thoughts and Call to Action

Let's Take Some Action:

• Sit down with yourself and reflect on your day-to-day actions and words, and what your wealthiest self would do.

This episode is sponsored by Kristen Rourke with Busy Mom Bod. Check her out on social media and her amazing programs!!
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Transcript

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The million dollar or billion dollar question, we're not going to put any limits here. Are you afraid of your happiest, healthiest and wealthiest self? We're going to find out together. Let's do this. You logically probably go like, well, of course, not like, of course, I want to be my happiest, healthiest, wealthiest, health like, Duh, like, and you may even, like, go as far and be like, I'm working towards it. I'm building the revenue streams. I'm showing up on social media. I am working out type of thing. Okay, so just bear with me as we go through this conversation, because you may be in you may be on the far side where you're like, I am completely terrified of my wealthiest self. You may be in the middle where you're like, one foot in, one foot out. Or you may be fully like, embodying your wealthiest self. And it's just a matter of time before like, everything that you desire, that you have created in your mind is in created in the the the real world. Okay, so just bear with me, because logically, it's easy to like, you know, our ego gets in the way and like, of course, not like, of course, I'm not afraid. So I think that this is a really powerful question to ask yourself, because a lot can show up, and this is truly, truly meant to be a very loving conversation. This is not meant to be a shame, like you suck or anything like that. So please just know that as I begin here, I do want to give a shout out to Kristen Roark with busy mom BOD for sponsoring today's episode, because this is probably one of the most important ones that I'm going to I'm going to send so many people to So Kristen with busy mom bod. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I love you. You're amazing. Make sure you check out Kristen. She's got so many good things going, and she's perfect for sponsoring this episode, because, you know, we need to, we get to, we get to, we deserve to be our healthiest self. And I really do believe health is wealth, and so much leads to your your so much comes from you being your healthiest self, and so you like working on that can be life changing. Okay, so let's get into this conversation to see where you're at, how afraid you are, because it's also not black and white. It can be like I said, it can be where it's, you know, you're 20% afraid. You could be 50% afraid. So this is not like a nope, I'm not afraid. There could still be some like residue, there could still be some like lag effect happening, right? And this is a big question that I asked myself. And when I did a program last year, 90 day wealthy you, I asked them that because I was working through it, and I could very much see where how I was showing up was absolutely because I was afraid of my wealthiest self, there was a lot of residue. And so even recently, I asked this question to myself again, to see what showed up for me to really call myself forward again. This is not a shame conversation. This is meant to be a very loving, uplifting, like, forward focused conversation, and so don't shut it down, right? Like I like again. I ask myself this question literally right before my birthday. I think it's a very natural thing right before your birthday, just to, like, reflect on your life and see you know how things are going and how you're feeling and all of the things. And so there, there's, there was still a little residue, I would say, maybe like 10% and this about this time last year. There was probably, I'm just going to like, pick a number of what it felt like there. I felt very afraid of my wealthiest self. I would say at least 60% about this time last year. And so I say all of that because I was still working out, I was still making money, I was still showing up on social media, right? And so this is where people get frustrated because they're like, I'm doing the thing. Why? Why am I hitting these blocks? Why am I hitting these plateaus? Why am I circling around like, similar patterns over and over and over again, right? I love when Mel Robbins talks about, like the five second rule, because, like, you get a desire, you get a dream, you get an idea, and if you don't act quick enough, your brain self sabotages, right? And this is why, like running, for me, like running towards my goals and dreams and not allowing my brain to. Enough time to self sabotage is a is a really powerful thing for me, because if I just, if I have that initial like, we're going to do this, we're going to figure this out. I have got to, like, put my running shoes on, literally, and start running, or my brain will start to be the the rebel and start to, you know, self sabotage, and it's so real, and it's not talked about enough. And I will always be a student first and a mentor second. And I think that that makes a really good mentor if I'm do say so myself, because I'm not bullshitting you. I'm not saying like, Oh my gosh, look at me. I have everything together. I'm so perfect. Because again, if that's what you think it means to be your happiest, healthiest self, you're going to be your brain is going to be like, there's no way I can, I can sustain that, right? Like, and talking about sustain my wealthy mama. Crew neck has a permanent stain on it. I don't know if it was from Boone. I don't know if it was from Emma. When I saw it in the wash and I tried to get it out, I was sad for a second, and then I just laughed, because I'm like, this is like, this is it. This is this is exactly who I am, right? If you told me to, in order to be my happiest, healthiest self, I needed to be in the gym once or twice a day I needed to literally, like, weigh all of my food and portion it out and track every single thing, if I needed to put on a suit every single day, if I needed to go into a Job 8am to 5pm and also expect to, like, clock back in in the evenings, right? Just as like an example for me, I my brain would be like that is not attainable in my my current reality. And when things don't feel attainable, we don't want to do them. And so when you feel like your wealthiest self is not even attainable. It's not even authentic to who you are. You will self sabotage. You are afraid because it's you're afraid of. You have to become someone that you're not you're afraid of. You know, letting down your family like it. There's just, there's no way that I would be able to be the mom that I want to be with our family like my husband goes into work at 4am if I had to be in at work at 7am right? Or 8am like and be there till five, it would be really tricky with my current reality, with two children that are under the age of six, right? And so now, with that being said, when I start to reverse engineer who I think my happiest, healthiest, wealthiest self is that looks very, very different. It feels very, very attainable, and that's what I've been working on for, like, truly, like, the last year of, really, who do I define my wealthiest self to be? Because it felt really intimidating. I felt like I needed to, you know, I had to wear certain brand names. I had to, you know, have these, like, super polished sexy, like photos, or I wasn't going to make it type of thing, and I'm like, that is just so not attainable, and it's not real life. Like, as much as I love a good, you know, sexy brand photo every now and then, like, again, if I'm modeling that, then you're not even going to feel like it's real life, and I don't even feel like it's real life, and then, like, what are we even doing, right? Like, what are we even doing here? And so the things that I want you to look at are your your day to day actions, okay? And the words that you're saying to yourself, okay? These can be words in your head. They can also be words that you're saying out loud, but this is where you can really start to see where there's some opportunities to become and embody your wealthiest self so much faster, because when you do self self sabotage less, you're going to get there faster and when you start to embody being your wealthiest self, your version, right? Nelly's version of her wealthiest, happiest, healthiest, wealthiest self. I don't want to measure my food every day. I don't want to track it every single day. I tried that, and literally in my body, it felt so frustrating. It felt so hard. I felt like I failed over and over and over again. As much as I love going to a gym, it's just not real life. It's not reality and again. Then that felt frustrating, and so I kept clinging on to who I thought I had to be. To get to where I want to go, versus sitting down with myself and asking myself, What would actually feel good to me if I knew no matter what I would be wildly successful what would feel good to me? And what would feel good to me is literally schedule freedom. It is the opportunity to drop my kid off, pick her up. Have tons of time during the day with Boone. I can pop in. I can do, you know, what I need to do. I can clean the house during the day. I can work during the day like it very much flows with what I want to do. I can do my makeup in the car or on the floor, like wherever it needs to be. She works out every single day, but not in a hard way. She just either gets a run in or gets her steps in, or, you know, lifts some weights, but nothing too hard, nothing where it doesn't feel attainable. She gets her water and she gets her greens in. She checks in with her team. She supports her team. She pays her team. She does daily deals and giveaways every single day. She has fun on social media. She educates, she supports she she gives scholarships, she gives love. She shows up for her, her family, right? Like so it's like the last year has really been about embodying my happiest, healthiest self without the reason being about my business. And I think that's important. When you do it for yourself, everyone wins, like when you actually do it for yourself. Your significant other, if you have a significant other, is going to win. Your kids are going to win, your clients are going to win, your business is going to win, your team is going to win. But it like it takes you doing it for yourself to get the party moving so when you can look at your day to day, it's not about being perfect, by the way, like I am not perfect, nor do I want you to be perfect, okay, but the most important thing is that we let go of who you Think you should be. I have literally gotten compliment after compliment from moms where they're like, you actually make me feel like I can make this happen based on who I am, how I'm showing up. Okay? Like, if, if I were a bro marketer, this would not be my reality right now, right? So I'm not going to attract guys that are in their 20s, and I'm okay with that, they can go find somebody else. And so this has just been the biggest aha moment for me. Hey, okay, and I really want you to think about this. I really want you to sit down with yourself, and if there's anything I can do, let me know. But let's start this conversation and start to think about your day to day action and your day to day words, and what would wealthy you do? Okay, this wealthy Mama is gonna go check on that one. Her.