359. Birthday Shenanigans Day #1: You Don't NEED More Money

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On today's episode of the Wake Up & Be Wealthy show, Nellie talks about your desire to want more, not need more!

She touches on:

• The difference between need energy and want energy. 
• Shifting your mindset.
• The power of being more aware of your feelings about money.

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Transcript

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Good morning mama. It is time to wake up and be wealthy. It is time for you to become rich a week. It is time for more ease, flow and fun for you. It is time to build a life and business. You are madly in love with it. It's time to unlock the wealth codes needed to build your business with your dedicated host, me Nellie Corriveau Nellie Corriveau. I am the CEO and founder of the wealthy mama movement. And I want to officially welcome you to the wake up and be wealthy show. I am the master at sales and social media with over 17 years of experience, building brands in multiple industries, resulting in millions of dollars night as mentored countless women from starting their businesses all the way up to multi millionaires. I am here to be your go to mama to help you build an iconic brand that you are proud of to create a massive cash and impact in the world. Without further ado, let's unlock today's episode. Enjoy. It is my birthday week. And I am so incredibly excited to give you a huge gift. All week long. I'm calling this my birthday bash, shenanigans, and an invitation to apply to become a VIP client with us. More on that later. But I'm just so excited to pour into you, I am obsessed in the best way possible with helping you make more money and doing it with ease, flow and fun. And so that is our focus all week long. And I'm so excited. And this is also an invitation to share this with a girlfriend, because every woman gets to make more and more money and it feels so fucking good. So let's start right now let's dive in. And I'm just so pumped for you because you deserve to make more money. And we're going to be talking about things that maybe are gonna shock you a little bit and I'm here for it. Because the mechanics of business are actually the easy stuff, like the stuff that you can Google the stuff that you can watch on YouTube. And so if that was the only thing that women needed to make millions and millions of dollars, more women would be making millions and millions of dollars. And so there's so much that is not being talked about not being worked through, which I do believe wholeheartedly is the biggest barrier for women because we're resourceful AF if we want to figure a system out, or a software out or a strategy, like we're gonna we're gonna find the way. And so it's it's the really the invisible stuff that really blocks you from so much fucking money. And that's really what we're going to be talking a lot about this week during the birthday bash. And of course, we'll totally dive into the fun, you know, sales and marketing strategies, because I can't help myself, I do love those too. And just in all the hours I don't even I've lost track of how many women I've worked with how many hours I have, like been on calls with people, like it's too much to count. And so I have just such a deep knowing and understanding of this world. And the beautiful part about talking to women privately, is they really deeply open up to you like maybe you and I have been on a call. And it's just been so beautiful because that one on one support. You can't beat it. Like you have this beautiful container, this private space where you can just almost stand naked in front of somebody and be like, yeah, here are all of my deepest fears and challenges and it I want to break through it. Right and so I understand that that can also feel still very scary. And you like I what I have found even with like my coaches is you get to a point where you just don't want to hold it anymore. Right? Your palms are sweaty, it's heavy. It's slowing you down. And the minute you can get to that moment, that place of Yes, where you you are no longer available to hold the heaviness even if you can't really fully articulate what the heaviness is or why it's there. You're willing to unpack it, right. And that is a beautiful, like, truly Quantum Leap moment, because it's the catalyst to so much more, I'll never forget, I think it was about eight years now, ago before I had kids. And we were newly married. So it was probably like about seven years ago, actually, like, seven to seven and a half, because we're almost at our eight year anniversary. Not that it like exactly matters, but it is important to like, as much as I can be accurate. So we'll just say, seven and a half to like, meet myself at the middle. But I'll never forget, I was in a leadership program that was very much emotional intelligence base. And one, I signed up to support a friend, which is such a cute reason why, like, I want to be there for my friend, right. And so I went mainly for her. Little did I know, I would stand in front of that group of people and say, I'm going to leave the nonprofit that I started. And I have no idea what I'm going to do next. Right. And so that heaviness that I was feeling, I knew my authentic self, my wealthiest self, I don't even think I used that word ever in my vocabulary, seven and a half years ago, but I do now. And so like, that identity of me knew there was more. And although I didn't know fully, to the magnitude of what it was going to be, I knew that it was there, right? It's like, kind of like when you can pick up somebody's energy. Good or bad like it, but you're like, Oh, I, I don't know what this looks like. But I can feel it right. And so that, like when we get to the point of like, you're ready to put it down, whatever it is, an unpack it is the catalyst to everything you desire, and so much more. And so really, what I want to talk to you about today, on the birthday bash series is your desire to want more not need more. And the hardest part about this is you may, quote unquote, need more, right? Maybe you have debt that you want to knock out, maybe your significant other is paying more of the bills right now. And you really need to make more or you want to leave your job. So you need to make more or maybe for you, you want to go on a big trip. So you need the money, right? And so yes, logically, that is true. And there's always going to be a logical need for money, no matter how much money you're bringing in, right? Like, there's always there's always going to be something in the best way possible, right? But here's the shift I want you to create today, if you're ready, and I believe in you. So you can decide that you need the money. Here's the caveat to that. When we come from a need energy, it is very desperate. It is very heavy, it is very lack mindset, meaning that you need it so badly, right? Like, it feels like almost like maybe you went on a date with somebody and you didn't love the date. And then they're like blowing you up like crazy. And you're like, ah, like, just leave me alone. Or maybe you're on maybe you've been the person on the flip side, where you're contacting that person, right? Because you're like, I thought we had a great time, right? And you're like, contacting them and contacting them and maybe you show up somewhere to like, because you know, they're gonna be there or vice versa. If it's like that person did it. It's very needy, right? And it's not attractive, like, you're not gonna, like immediately, like, let's say the person is doing it to you. Because that's like a more playful situation. So like, that person's being really needy. Do you ever go, Oh my gosh, you just need me so much like, okay, like, Let's get married and have babies right? No, it's gross, right? Like you're not attracted to it, right? It's not attractive. And on the flip side, like people don't want to be like ignored but there is like this playfulness and flirtiness let's say you go on an amazing date that it was like, I want to be here. Oh my gosh, this is so freakin good. Like oh, are they gonna kiss me like it's just so different? It's a whole different vibe and then like maybe that person you know kisses you can night and it's the best kiss ever. And that's all you can think about and you have like the best sleep ever. You thought I was gonna say something else, didn't you? But you have the best sleep ever. And then they like call you in the morning just really quickly. Like don't take a bunch of your time right there. It's not this need energy. It's this one energy and you answer because you wanted to write and then maybe a couple days later they Send flowers because they wanted to. And it's like, oh, yes, like, this feels so good. So the vibe is so different. It is a one to one energy on both sides. This is what we want for money. And with you. So it's still the same scenario of dating somebody, but the vibe is so different. And so no matter where you're at right now, in your money journey, you can create this. Absolutely, absolutely. And we really want to focus on the energetics of money first, because you hold all the power, no matter what is in your bank account, right now, there are people that have millions of dollars in their bank account, and they actually have need energy, very lack very scarcity. And it's a different vibe, there are people that have$1,000 in their bank account, and they're like, I am rich, A F, right. And they're just living their best life. And it's amazing. So it does not matter. Okay, what is actually in your bank account right now, what your business is bringing in what your salary is, how much debt you do, or don't have. None of that matters right now, when we are working first, on the energetics of money and you. And so to give you a practical, practical example, I really want you to tap into, do you have want energy when you are spending money, meaning it feels very, very good, and very exciting to spend money, right? There's no like feeling in it. And then do you also have one energy when you're receiving money, right, your paycheck? Maybe somebody gives you a gift pays for your lunch, or a new client pays their invoice Are we like actively promoting your offers online or your products or whatever you've got going on. Because that's the one energy you're choosing, right? One, two, energy is all choice. And it all feels good all the time. And it's so possible, and you may be sitting there or driving and be like, there is no way in LA that it can be all the time. Everything is a choice. Everything is perspective. Everything can be shifted, everything can be different. And immediately when you say so. And so even if you find yourself getting nervous to spend money. It's not to say oh my gosh, Nellie, I'm not perfect. And I just messed up, you said I can get there all the time, there's no hope for me, you can still have it all the time. Because this, the situation is not over. Until you say it's over. Right. So like, let's say you're at Target. This was me. years ago in college, I had such a lack mindset, a need energy. And it was so real because I was working multiple jobs, I was trying to like pay for college, like I was so overwhelmed and in over my head drowning. And not even fully knowing I was drowning, but like, you know, the feeling. So even if you don't say I'm drowning, if you're in water truly drowning, you're drowning, right? And so I had so much of that around me. And so like when I was with my friends at Target, I had so much anxiety spending money, that even when I started to make money, I would go into Target and get triggered, right? Like, I'm like, Why? Why is this happening? Like, I have money like, it's okay, it's safe for me to spend money at Target, right. And so we can work through all of this slowly, and it feels so good. But the first step is acknowledging, you've got some work to do, whether it's receiving money, or giving money and giving money means like spending money, it doesn't mean just to charity, it's like giving money away. And that is truly like basic money. 101 is giving and receiving money is not meant to just stay in account all of it, right? Like, obviously we want money to work for you. And also, I don't want you to be that millionaire multimillionaire billionaire, like there's no cap on your potential. I don't want you to be I don't want you to be at any level of money and feel unsafe. Right. And so this is the power of the energetics of no matter where you're at right now. There's always room to grow. And you can immediately shift your energy so I'll give you a very powerful example. I was getting annoyed when I kept pulling out my credit card. This is a very recent example. For like little things like Starbucks or Panera or Like we're grabbing smoothies really quickly, like little things. And it just annoyed me because it's hard for my ADHD brain to know like, oh my gosh, am I in budget for, you know, what I would like to spend for food? And entertainment? Or like, or am I not? And I can't always sit down in the season of life to like, go through the credit card statement and add things up. And so I kept swiping and kept swiping and kept swiping. So even though the situation was complete, like the scene, if you will, it's not over until you say it's over. Write. So there, there's always an opportunity to choose again. Okay, so I went to work because I am a believer, like, I embody this work, and I teach it. And that's why I know it works all the time. And so I said, What would feel better, I'm gonna choose again, what would feel better. And I was like, I would love to pull out cash, and keep it in my wallet. Wealthy, Nelly has cash always, no matter how much is in there, like, she has cash. And it has felt, oh my gosh, unbelievably, juicy, sexy, thrilling, and powering. Like, I even went to Tim Hortons this morning and opened up my wallet, got a $10 bill out, I even peeked to see like where I'm at with the amount of cash that they pulled out. And I it's been such a fun game of stretching, I pulled out like 200 bucks. I have stretched that to under bucks. And I've been able to like guilt free. Spend it right. And so this is the power of being more aware of your feelings with giving and receiving money, that we really can't continue to work through it. Okay, and not apologize for it and enjoy the process. Okay, so I really want you to tap in to see what feels like there could be some room to grow. And I would obviously totally pick something specifically because if we if we stay in the gray area of like, yeah, like, a lot of it doesn't feel good. It's too big. It's too abstract. So like, think about giving money, meaning spending money, like giving money out away, right? Whether you swipe your card, you cash, how does that feel? And also how does it feel to receive money, I have always felt so much better receiving money. Like, I love making money. And what I've had to really work on is being safe and feeling good about spending it, investing it, growing it right, that has been really where I've been focusing more of my time and attention on because I know that's where I have more room to grow. So that's what I really want you to step back and think about today, like which side gets to have more one energy and then zoom really far in on what is a small money move that you can make today. Because that is my goal through the Birthday Bash is you're making one money move a day, as I'm like coaching you and supporting you. And then my invitation to you is to apply to be one of my VIP clients, I have decided to really zoom in myself and really go deep with a small group of women, and customizing a plan for each of them. That fully aligns with their needs, their wants, their desires, and also their learning style and energy and time capacity. And I want this container to grow with you. So my intention is you apply you go through this application process, we make sure you're a good fit. And we give you a proposal that is in alignment with where you're at and where you're heading. And it is in energetic agreement of a year at a time. And it grows with you. So like anytime during that year, if you're like oh, I would really love more, or I would really love this or I thought this would feel good and it doesn't. So it's like a beautiful, flexible container but energetically you are committing to growing and having support for a full year of transformation. And so I have not seen this done. Like if you have seen this done, I would love to know because I have not seen it done. And I'm so excited. Like I've seen obviously people have applications but not in this away. And I'm just so excited to be at least one of the trailblazers online. So often I find people getting decision fatigue of like, should I have a one on one coach, I'd be in a mastermind should I buy that course. And then you start to spend a lot of money and then you're not really maximizing it and using it and you're kind of lost in the sauce. And so I've just decided At what has felt so good to me. So this is another money move, I suppose, because it wasn't feeling great how I was presenting offers, and I was like, You know what would feel so good, really having a small group of women individually like those to still be like a community feel. But we are individually creating plans and having accountability for each and every woman that we are working with, and really tracking their success and helping them get there. So I'm super pumped, you'll very rarely I don't want to say never. But it'll be very rare that you see me promote a very specific offer. This is now my main focus of applying, like apply to work and become a VIP client. And I'm very excited for you because maybe this could be one of your money moves this week. If you have any questions, let me know but just super excited to pour into you and give you massive value and help you make more more more and more money with ease flow and fun. All right, come back tomorrow. It's gonna be so good. I love you so much. 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